A late-night post from Twitter friend and fellow blogger, Rob La Gesse got me thinking.
I picked “principled” off the cuff, but said I needed ten words. Rob tossed out a “blog it” challenge: What are your favorite 10 words and why? Here’s my list, and start thinking — because I want to hear yours.
- Principled – Have you figured out who you are, and what you believe, and will you stand by that even when it costs you? Even if your principles are different than mine, if they’re clear and you’re honest about them, I can respect you.
- Unafraid – I don’t mean willing to eat worms or play chicken with a freight train. That’s reckless and stupid. But have you silenced the fear that keeps you from reaching out in friendship? I adore people willing to say the thing everyone else is thinking. To quote Marianne Williamson: “Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.”
- Gracious – Are you grateful for the people around you, aware that there is really no such thing as a self-made man or woman – that we are all a mosaic of the people who have touched our lives? Learning to applaud others without concern that they might eclipse you is the hallmark of a grownup.
- Welcoming – Are you open to both new people and new ideas? In middle school, it’s expected to hold your circle of friends so tightly that no one else gets in. Any older and it’s sad, and limiting.
- Flawed – People unaware of their own shortcoming are not only annoying, they are missing out on an opportunity to connect with others. Vulnerability leads to authentic friendship.
- Gentle – I am drawn to people who have enough finesse to say what needs to be said while still protecting the feelings that need to be protected. I am so not there yet. But better at it in my 40s than I was in my 20s. I still don’t suffer fools gladly. I do correct them with more grace.
- Forgiving – There’s no element of martyrdom in learning to forgive. It is a self-preservation skill. Holding on to grudges is like squeezing a machete in a bear hug. You’re the one that gets sliced up.
- Curious– Without curious people, the “West Coast” would still refer to the Cliffs of Dover. You sure wouldn’t be reading a blog written on a fancy typing machine and sent across a series of tubes.
- Silly – Not all the time, of course. But I am prone to intermittent bouts of laughter, usually at my own expense. It’s more fun that way.
- Redeemed — I borrow this from another friend who answered that original late-night post. I claim my own flaws, but credit anything good about me to the knowledge that I have been blessed in no small measure by the limitless grace of God, and I owe it to him to extend grace in return.
Those are my ten words. But I want to hear yours. Leave them in the comments, or better yet, blog it and leave a link in the comments. If you tweet a link, pop on a #10words hashtag. I know, I’m bossy, but also nosy and want to be able to find your list.