Comments on: Today, No One Can Talk To You

By: Ali

Ali — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 21:52:43 +0000

Bravo to you! for raising such a strong, beautiful daughter.

By: Sherry Carr-Smith

Sherry Carr-Smith — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 21:50:51 +0000

What an amazing person your daughter already is. And what the hell was going on in Alyssa’s young life to not only make her treat others that way, but give her the language to do it? Sad.

Sherry

By: Octopusgrabbus

Octopusgrabbus — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 22:30:07 +0000

That Alyssa girl needs some serious therapy. There are mean things you can say — not that you should — without having said that.

By: Sandra McKenzie

Sandra McKenzie — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 20:05:58 +0000

Hey Dawn, have I told you lately how much I love your blog? (And now your daughter). I can soooo relate to the “mean girl” bullying. My worst bullying incident happened in high school – and it was a guy. He seemed to hate most of the girls in school, but for me he reserved an especially mean type of hatred. Don’t know what set him off – do know that I regret, to this day, not having the guts to call him on his nastiness. And I certainly don’t have your daughter’s largeness of spirit, so haven’t forgiven him (and likely never will) for making my adolescence more of a living hell than it absolutely had to be.

By: Aunt Becky

Aunt Becky — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 04:24:41 +0000

She’s 2844393 times the person I can ever be. Wow.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 04:03:25 +0000

I remember that day well. I was in seventh grade and no one “could” talk to me. I remember my best friend saying she was confused because she had been told not to, and so, she was really sorry. In the afternoon, in desperation, I told her I was going to another school. I wanted her to beg me not to and to realize the craziness of the day. It was a long, painful day, and fortunately that was the extent of my being bullied that year. But the bully wasn’t done bullying people. And after her would come another bully. There is always a bully. Your daughter shines in the example that she gives, choosing to stand up for herself. Her choice is admirable. Having a mom that does the celebratory dance in the kitchen with her allows her to make such a choice. These are the bests of motherhood I think, the important parts. You are a gem, and I hope you feel it in your heart. And I hope she recognizes the gift that she is. I pray that I am the dancing mother as my little girl grows. Your example makes me hopeful.

By: kristy - wheres my damn answer

kristy - wheres my damn answer — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 18:48:09 +0000

Wow … from the mouths of babes.

When Zac was younger he had a run in with a bully for a couple years. I explained to him that when kids say mean things to you it’s usually the worst thing they can imagine someone else saying to them. Once he learned that … the words the bully was spouting off didn’t seem quite as hurtful to him. He would say, “wow … I’m sorry you feel that way”.

By: ingrid

ingrid — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 16:18:57 +0000

Oh, my….I have to say you handled that much better than I would have. I would have been hard pressed not to “get ghetto”. LOL!

Your daughter sounds like she’s an amazing girl. Just like her Mama.

Happy Thanksgiving, Dawn! Hope you and your family have a safe and happy one!
~ingrid

By: Katie

Katie — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 14:32:23 +0000

Chills. Terrific story. You should send that to Parenting Magazine or Parents or whatever it’s called! Ha. Seriously.
Beautifully written and what a wonderful lesson!

By: Quadelle

Quadelle — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 14:25:02 +0000

What an amazing character your daughter has.